Paeng hits the Philippines

As of this writing, there have been dead, injured, and missing people caused by Tropical Storm Paeng (internationally known as Tropical Storm Nalgae). And we hope that it stops there.

Strong winds and continuous rain batter the country. There have been floods and landslides in different provinces. Cities were flooded, as well. Families have been sent to evacuation centers. Volunteers were called to pack relief goods. Thus, a state of calamity has been declared.

Paeng is the Philippines’ 16th tropical cyclone for 2022. As the year is reaching its end, we’re still unsure if this is the last of the tropical cyclones to hit the country. But we’re hoping.

We’re praying for everyone’s safety.

🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

© 2022 / Adelheid Michael

What I want to be

My dream was to be a teacher. If I took up education in college, I’d probably be a doctor in education now. But because of my parent’s decision, I didn’t take education. They said, both families are educators and doctors, so I have to take a different path.

At that time, I didn’t have the courage to express what I truly want. I thought, I can just take teaching units after I graduate and pass the Licensure Exam for Teachers. For some reason, it didn’t happen.

Years passed, I got married and became a mother. When my daughter was six years old, she wanted to be a nurse. Then, one day, when we visited her former school, she was introduced to the class by her former adviser. And while the teacher and I exchanged pleasantries, some of the kids started asking my daughter for help in their activity. The teacher allowed her to interact and ‘teach’ the preschoolers. Since then, she wanted to be a teacher.

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Now that she’s twenty, she still dreams of becoming a teacher but she also wants to be a veterinarian. She asked if she can still take up Doctor of Veterinary Medicine, I said, yes. So we came up with an agreement of finishing her veterinary studies first and take up teaching units (18 units) after, then take the Licensure Exam. Hopefully, she passes. 🙏🏻

I don’t want to get in the way of my daughter’s dream. I want her to create and walk on her own path. I’m here to guide her, give advice if needed, and support her all the way. The course she’s taking is financially ambitious but thank God, she is under free tuition fee for the whole seven years. I am only paying for her dormitory fee, and then there’s her weekly allowance.

My salary is, honestly, not enough for her college. Most of the time, I apply for government loans for her tuition fee. If not for her discounted tuition fee in high school and then this free tuition in college, I don’t know how she’d continue her studies.

I didn’t get to pursue my dream of becoming a teacher but I promised myself that if I will be a mother, I will support what my child wants to study in college. And I remembered that promise. 🥰

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© 2022 / Adelheid Michael

Not in DNA but in the heart

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I have a story about this that is so close to heart. Every time I hear of it, it makes me cry, tears of joy running down my cheeks. I’m preparing it for another post.

Been busy for the past months and not able to check my email but from time to time, I try to read some posts from you even for a few hours. Thank you!

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© 2022 / Adelheid Michael

Favoritism

Four Sisters and a Wedding is a Filipino comedy-drama movie about four sisters and a brother who’s getting married.

The four sisters are attempting to stop the wedding of their younger brother to his girlfriend making them look like protective sisters. But the real drama in the movie is the confrontation between the eldest and the second child.

What is it about? Favoritism.

The second child confessed to feeling alone and jealous because the mother always favors the eldest (and the youngest who is the only boy among the siblings). She continued to say that even though she gets awards and medals in school, she was never complimented by the mother and that she focuses more on attending to the needs of the eldest child. She further explained that even when their father was alive, she was not also his favorite.

Sounds familiar, right? But do you believe that parents have favorites among their children? I’d say, yes and no.

In the movie, the mother said she doesn’t have any favorites, it’s just that the eldest and the youngest children are emotionally and intellectually weak than her (the second child) that she gave them much attention and time, and that it doesn’t mean that they’re her favorites.

I guess, it can be a valid reason for the mother. Still, she should not have been too obvious about it.

My take?

Parents would not easily notice that they play favorites unless told. Usually, it’s the child (children) and the people around the family who notices it. I’m one of the people. Not being judgmental, but it is easily recognizable.

But, hey, I also play favorites. We are five siblings (three girls and two boys, in that order) and my favorite is the youngest. My youngest brother is now 28. He was born when I was 21. My younger brother is already 46 years old, a 17-year gap between them. Because of our age gap, people often mistake him to be my son. 😁😅😆

For me, favorite or not, we should still strive to pursue our dreams, do good, be good, and feel good about ourselves.

P.S. Thank you, all, for the thoughts you shared about favoritism.

© 2022 / Adelheid Michael

I love you in cute little ways

When my daughter was a baby, I would always whisper to her I love you, baby. And you know, babies love whispers and they would smile.

By the time she was around five years old, she can already respond to my whispers. It always makes me giggle with joy.

My whispers continued even now that she’s a young lady.

How does she answer I love you? She would either:

a) Raise her brows up and down

b) Nod her head

c) Or, whisper love you back

Just last night, I went to bed when she’s already asleep and whispered, ‘love you, baby’ and she readily answered, ‘love you‘ with closed eyes.

I’m praying that even when she’s married and have kids, she’ll continue to be the same.

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© 2022 / Adelheid Michael